What Should My Guys Wear for My Wedding? We all know about saying yes to the dress. But what about saying….”woot to the suit?”
Did I ever struggle with this question when planning my wedding. Let me just throw it out there that picking out my wedding dress was WAY easier than picking out what my groom and groomsmen were going to wear. Not sure if I’m a minority/crazy in that sense, but hey, do girls need to think about all the color and pattern options in the world? Not typically.
Now, of course like all tiny details of a wedding, it has to go with your overall “vision” and basic design concept. Are you getting married in a ballroom? Hotel? Barn? Hey, these days, the possibilities are endless. Nontraditional wedding venues and themes have widened the variety SO much for what the guys wear. And it’s pretty fun to see all the options. (Oh hey, this can be pretty stressful and intimidating too to pick out as a bride! Been there).
Of course everyone always wants to keep in mind too that their wedding photos should be timeless in the sense that they love them forever. Now, in my own personal opinion, that is kind of impossible. The things that are in fashion today, just won’t be cool when our kids are older (hence the “OMG Mom, you wore that!?!”, we’ve all said that to our parents and will be told that in the future. Hard truth.) I go by that your wedding should reflect one thing: the couple’s style. This goes for what you wear too.
I digress, so what should your guys wear? A few things to consider that I thought about for months on end. I’ll save you some painful brain-thinking by giving you my top 5 high points to consider:
1) Does the groom look good with the bride?
Well, duh. Does peanut butter go well with jelly? Not to make it all about the bride, but hey, you two may be in just a FEW photos together, best to coordinate that up front
My wedding colors were mint green and blush pink. My groom wore a mint green dress shirt that had a slight pinstripe pattern, I loved it. I searched long and hard and went to Macy’s 5 million times. Then found the shirt at JCPenney of all places (get creative, brides)- p.s. also found ALL my ties here. I purposely dressed my groom in soft colors that wouldn’t be overpowering in photographs.
2) What’s your vibe?
Back to the “vision” thing. Grand ballroom wedding, barn wedding, keep it all in mind.
We had a barn wedding. Our vibe was casual, vintage and romantic.
3) Tux or Suit?
Tux = formal, less options, classic look
Suit = more casual (can still be formal), more options
We went with suits. Again, married at a barn. Seemed more appropriate.
4) Rent or Buy?
Renting = expensive for them, they walk away with zippo, notta, nothin’
Buying = expensive for you, they walk away with some stylish new swagger
We went with buy. We chose to have our groomsmen buy the suit pants and the suit vest. We opted out of doing jackets since it was July, outside, in WI (hot!). Then as part of their gift for being in the wedding, we bought them their (1) dress shirt (2) tie (3) shoes. Boom. They walked away with some slammin’ separates that they can reuse in life. WIN!
5) Do you want the groom to look the SAME as his groomsmen?
Personal preference. I like being able to point out the groom in any photo by subtle differences. Different vest, colored shirt, overalls, shoes, etc. So many choices!
I went with no, I wanted my groom to be slightly different. We achieved this by going with: (1) Different shirt (2) Different tie (3) Different shoes. Nothing so crazy that he looked out of place, but enough so that he looked, well, like the groom. Oh, he also had a jacket for the ceremony to make it a little more “offic”, but lost the jacket soon after and rocked the vest since the weather was toasty.
Considering how much thought goes into picking out what the guys wear (or at least for some crazies like me), I think we deserve a drink (or nap, or both). Cheers to your guys looking fan-freakin-tastic at your wedding all thanks to your insanely detailed planning.
You go bride.
(check out my Pinterest page here to see all that inspired me for the guys!)
*Photos courtesy of Erin Jean Photography